Before putting starter in the fridge: Feed it first using a 1:1:1 ratio by weight (equal amounts starter, water, and flour). For example, mix 50g starter with 50g water and 50g flour. Cover the jar and leave it at room temperature for about 1–2 hours to let fermentation begin, then refrigerate it. You do not need to wait for it to double before refrigerating.
While it’s refrigerated: If you aren’t baking regularly, take it out, feed it, let it sit for 1–2 hours, and put it back in the fridge about once a week.
Before your next bake: Take it out about 1–2 days before you plan to mix dough, and feed it soon after removing it from the fridge (you can feed it while it is still cold). Leave it at room temperature and feed again roughly 12 hours later if needed until it reliably doubles and looks bubbly. Use 100g of active, risen starter for the recipe above, and keep some starter back for future feedings. After you bake, feed the starter you kept, rest it on the counter for 1–2 hours, then return it to the fridge.